It's
funny how often you have more unconditional love for strangers.. maybe
one in particular who gives you a kind, welcoming smile. Or a coworker
you rarely see, but gave you their yogurt for lunch or something. And
you smile back, and it makes your day significantly better. But have a
long-time friend or family member who the natural attachment is there
for and there's an unconditional unreasonable
type of selfish love which has the ability and potential to cause
destruction. Your detachment to people allows you to practice
unconditional love to them and maintain a healthy level of respect. But
can we have this with anyone who we have had a long term connection
with? Absolutely. It's a practice to keep practicing because it's the
only way to undo it, or at least most of it in this conditioned world.
I'd like to think were getting better. And this is part if what I will
talk to #AbrahamHicks
about. I decided to post this (and these are my favorite reasons to
post, but not necessarily the top reasons I post) because I'm proud of
myself and my practicing of unconditional love. AND it happens to start
with myself. Then again practicing unconditional love with another IS
practicing unconditional love with yourself. And what about romantic
love relationships? Well, so often they seem not to practice
unconditional love, but instead an unreasonable selfish desperate love
(notice I say "unreasonable selfish" because "selfish" otherwise is NOT a
bad word). How is or that love relationships can be beautifully
functioning while playing the game of monogamy that by definition can
seem like conditional love? Well, it's rather simple. It's about sharing
the same desire, being true to that desire and preference, and engaging
in the fun game together. It also allows you to practice your ability
for truth and honesty. Meaning- are you true and honest to yourself?
It's not that you are true and honest to him/her initially. You are only
because you are to yourself. There is nothing wrong with polygamy or
"open relationships". And you can't fault others, or claim they do not
love you for those types of relationships. In this case what you have
done is had a contrasting experience which you have NOT moved on from.
From that point with your better knowing of your preferences you should
be patiently wait and stay aware of that who comes into your life that
shares the same game-styles you do. If you want ALL to most of the
attention lavished between you two then YES you deserve that. See,
that's another problem. People talk "unconditional love" and then get
confused, convincing themselves they don't deserve something that
represents monogamy. You deserve what you want. You simply cannot EXPECT
it of all that come into your dating experience. You can expect it of
that who wants to share your same preference with you through your own
clarity, understanding, and better knowing of YOURSELF. Give the
Universe a chance. Then all is yours. I went off into "dating", but this
applies to all subjects of love. Isn't it funny how by definition we
practice, almost automatically, unconditional often with strangers. And
in fact doesn't that go to show and prove that ultimately by nature
we're actually all good hearted at the core? "Detachment"- a good thing.
Yes, you're human and you'll grow attachments. So don't totally deny
it. What you do is you DETACH and feel freer to, if you will, "lightly
attach" with those who share you preferences. Since you can't totally
beat attachment from the human perspective anyway. So, we'll say-
lightly attach with those you share alignment, and love DEEPLY. And
you'll experience the BIGGEST ¡WOW! EVER. Whys that? Because not only do
you love so deeply, but you still have your sense of self, freedom even
if monogamous, AND self-love and self-respect. All that AND you get to
play your preferred game.
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